10 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Your Pregnant Partner

Most pregnant women have had the experience of an insensitive comment at least once. Learn how to avoid the most common ones.

1. “Who is the father?”

This is by far the most dangerous question you could ask a pregnant woman. If you have reasonable doubt that you are the father, talk to her about that, express your concerns and reasons for doubt and be understanding. It will nonetheless be a difficult conversation, so think it through beforehand.

2. “How hard can it be?”

Have you ever had a baby? The experience of being pregnant brings pain, discomfort, stress and a great deal of anxiety and bad moods. It’s extremely important to show empathy and support, so try to be more understanding and less condescending.

3. “Are you crying again?”

Pregnancy is an emotional time, so don’t be surprised if your partner will start crying over small issues. Be supportive and offer her hugs and tissues.

4. “You’ve gotten big”

Don’t make any comments about her weight gain, ever. For most pregnant women, this is a very sensitive subject and should be handled cautiously.

5. “Are you going to wear that tent for dinner?”

Pretty maternity clothes are much harder to find than regular clothes, especially when she’s on a budget. You should make her feel beautiful and comfortable. Don’t create insecurities by commenting on her maternity wear.

6. “You’re too emotional”

And that is normal during pregnancy, so don’t make her feel bad about it.

7. “I know how you feel”

Unless you’ve actually been pregnant before, you don’t know. You might laugh together about a remark like this or she might get upset. It’s good to ask her how she feels and to be understanding, but remember that you’re not really sharing the same load.

8. “You can’t eat that”

Never tell your pregnant partner what she may not eat. That’s her decision. Don’t question the cravings she has and try to help her have a balanced diet without imposing anything.

9. “Let’s have a drink”

Suggesting alcohol or coffee is irresponsible and might be upsetting to her.

10. “I don’t feel like rubbing your back right now”

Back aches are a common symptom during pregnancy. Giving her back rubs every evening is your responsibility as a partner and one of the most soothing things you can do to make her pregnancy easier.

10 Life Hacks to Make Your Pregnancy Easier

Whether a product you can buy or a tip you can follow, these ten life hacks will turn out to be priceless for your pregnancy experience.

1. Use a custom body pillow to sleep on your side.

Sleeping on your back is not healthy during pregnancy, and sleeping on your belly will become increasingly uncomfortable as your bump will grow. Invest in a total body pillow for sleeping on the side. It will truly make a difference for the quality of your sleep.

2. Get massages

Ask your partner or go to a massage therapist for a relaxing massage at least once a week. Even a simple back rub every night will help relief your backaches.

3. Enhance your bath experience

Taking a nice, relaxing bath before bed can do wonders for your well-being. Take your time to improve this experience with candles, aromatherapy and bath salts.

4. Go swimming

Swimming will feel completely different when you are in the third trimester of pregnancy. Most pregnant women enjoy swimming because they feel more lightweight. It’s a great exercise and at the same time it’s a break from the daily weight load.

5. Wear pretty maternity clothes

Being comfortable in your maternity clothes is the most important, but feeling beautiful matters. Invest in maternity clothes that are not just comfortable, but also pretty (or fun to wear). Body image issues can get stressful during pregnancy, so nice clothes and beauty products will make you happier.

6. Treat your skin

Use oils and lotions after your baths to feel pampered and prevent stretchmarks.

7. Use a warm rice bag for your backaches

Fill a pillow case with rice and sew it at the open end. Heat it in the microwave whenever you have a backache. Rice bags are perfect for this because they keep a warm, not too hot temperature. For an upgraded experience, add a pinch of cinnamon or lavender and mix it with the rice.

8. Exercise with a birthing ball

Sit straight on a birthing ball and roll in small circles, it’s very soothing for your back.

9. Turn your veggie meals into smoothies

When you get tired of salads, start your morning with a veggie smoothie. Try a new recipe everyday through combinations and experiments with veggies, fruits and nuts.

10. Create pampering opportunities for yourself

Having a relaxing moment for yourself is precious and rare during pregnancy and maternity. That’s why you need to create them with every opportunity you get. Take advantage of your free time and go to the spa, take a nap, read a book or get your manicure done. It’s the little pleasures that keep us happy.