Decoding baby cries

Babies cry. It is a fact and it will not change no matter how many centuries pass. Some people say that crying is a natural phenomenon. Since babies are unique and have different personalities, some can cry more than others cry or sleep less than others sleep. In addition, each baby responds differently to stimuli.

A myth that is far from being busted is that mothers can tell the difference between types of their babies ‘cry. Before trusting any myth or rumour, pay attention to your child and adapt to his personality.

Look at the 5 most common baby cries

1. Pain Alarm

This type of cry is usually piercing, grating and powerful. Also, the mimics and gestures of your baby appear panicked and alerted. The babies that suffer from gas pain bring their knees up to chest or grunt. Your baby might calm down if he sucks on his finger or the dummy.

2. Sleep Alarm

Sounds like a breathy and helpless sob and it usually announces that the baby is tired and needs sleep. Also, the baby’s eyes are reddish and he keeps rubbing them. Some babies though tired, are agitated and when taken in arms they are restless. Usually they just want to be allowed to sleep. Rocking the baby gently and humming a soft tune can help your baby fall asleep more easily.

3. Boring/Over-stimulating Alarm

It does not sound so powerful and agitated like the other types and it is more like a chanting. The way you can tell it is a bored cry is the fact that the baby looks away from the game or you, so try to find other stimuli. In case the baby is over-stimulated, try to focus his attention on one sound or one image and play some soothing music.

4. Annoyed Alarm

Sounds like a whiny and forced repetition. The baby is telling you he is not comfortable with something. He also pulls angry faces and flaps his hands. He can react in this way based on simple stimuli such as the hat falls over his eyes or the shoe feels like slipping off.

5. Burp Alarm

If the baby makes an “eh” sound repeatedly, after a meal, it means it is time to help him burp. His chest and stomach muscles tightened and he needs to get those gases out.

Before stressing yourself about the cry of your baby try to understand him and check if his basic needs have been covered- clean diaper, comfortable position, hunger.

How to handle the baby tantrum

One thing that can leave a bitter taste about parenthood is the baby tantrum show. From that cute child, your baby can turn in seconds in the most awful emergency alarm. It is stressful and worrisome for most parents, but the baby is making noises to tell you something.

The trick to all those cries and bad moods is to be as witty as a fox…Tactfully. Your baby is scared of the new power he discovers- yell and cry until he brings desperation, but he can scratch himself by flapping agitated his arms or pull heavy objects over him. Make sure he cannot injure himself during the tantrum. Many babies do not like to be embraced or hugged during their tantrums because they understand it as physical restriction.

Below, you have 4 effective tips on how to manage your baby’s tantrums

 1. Calm down

This encouragement is for you, not for your baby. Do not respond to cries and screams with screams. You have to be the calm oasis your baby can return to so try to be as calm as possible.

2.  No argument

Trying to be logical and explain to your child the situation is useless. The baby is having a crisis beyond reason; he will not understand anything of what you are saying. However, you can talk on a calm tone with your toddler and try to see what bothers him.

3. No reward

This goes both ways- Whether it is a reward or a punishment, you must not change the current situation for the baby. For example, if your child wants chocolate but he is not allowed to eat it and he starts to cry, do not give him the chocolate in order to make him stop. Alternatively, if you were planning to feed your child before the tantrum, feed him regardless of the crisis, after he calms down.

4. No shift in behaviour

One of the most horrid experiences when it comes to babies or toddlers tantrums is the public show. You are in the centre of the mall and your baby starts to make a tantrum. It is a common situation and people around will understand. We were all babies once. If the baby notices that his tantrums manipulate you, the crisis will become his spoiled weapon. Try to keep your calm and let the baby see that his tantrum does not affect you.

As a parent, you have to know your child. Learn to make the difference between a tantrum and a real pain or discomfort. Not all baby’s cries are used to manipulate you to give him a candy or a new toy.

Remember that the baby responds to your energy so if you are calm, the baby will calm down easier. Do not let him feel your frustration and anxiety.