How to handle the baby tantrum

One thing that can leave a bitter taste about parenthood is the baby tantrum show. From that cute child, your baby can turn in seconds in the most awful emergency alarm. It is stressful and worrisome for most parents, but the baby is making noises to tell you something.

The trick to all those cries and bad moods is to be as witty as a fox…Tactfully. Your baby is scared of the new power he discovers- yell and cry until he brings desperation, but he can scratch himself by flapping agitated his arms or pull heavy objects over him. Make sure he cannot injure himself during the tantrum. Many babies do not like to be embraced or hugged during their tantrums because they understand it as physical restriction.

Below, you have 4 effective tips on how to manage your baby’s tantrums

 1. Calm down

This encouragement is for you, not for your baby. Do not respond to cries and screams with screams. You have to be the calm oasis your baby can return to so try to be as calm as possible.

2.  No argument

Trying to be logical and explain to your child the situation is useless. The baby is having a crisis beyond reason; he will not understand anything of what you are saying. However, you can talk on a calm tone with your toddler and try to see what bothers him.

3. No reward

This goes both ways- Whether it is a reward or a punishment, you must not change the current situation for the baby. For example, if your child wants chocolate but he is not allowed to eat it and he starts to cry, do not give him the chocolate in order to make him stop. Alternatively, if you were planning to feed your child before the tantrum, feed him regardless of the crisis, after he calms down.

4. No shift in behaviour

One of the most horrid experiences when it comes to babies or toddlers tantrums is the public show. You are in the centre of the mall and your baby starts to make a tantrum. It is a common situation and people around will understand. We were all babies once. If the baby notices that his tantrums manipulate you, the crisis will become his spoiled weapon. Try to keep your calm and let the baby see that his tantrum does not affect you.

As a parent, you have to know your child. Learn to make the difference between a tantrum and a real pain or discomfort. Not all baby’s cries are used to manipulate you to give him a candy or a new toy.

Remember that the baby responds to your energy so if you are calm, the baby will calm down easier. Do not let him feel your frustration and anxiety.

10 interesting facts about babies

Science develops fast, but there are still many curiosities that we do not know about babies. A peculiar matter is the tight bond that forms between mother and child, a bond that science fails to explain. Miracles are all around babies.

Let’s look at 10 of the most interesting facts about babies.

1. A few days of birth and your baby can tell the difference between various fibres.

2. In general, newborns turn their heads more to the right than to the left.

3. The newborn is urinating once at 20 minutes, then once in 6 hours.

4. Once at 3 seconds a baby is born in the world.

5. Some of the premature born babies are Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, Napoleon Bonaparte and Jean-Jacques Rousseau. Great minds seem to be hasty.

6. The baby has kneecaps that are not visible on X-rays during pregnancy.

7. The baby’s head is about 25% of the general weight.

8. Baby boys are generally heavier than baby girls.

9. Babies have around 10,000 taste buds, much more than adults, but they disappear in time.

10. Usually, newborns tend to sleep about 16 hours per day though not continuously.

Enjoy your experience as a new parent. It doesn’t hurt to give in to your inner child from time to time, especially since your baby needs a play comrade. Rejoice because you were a tiny miracle too.

Houseplants that are safe for the baby

Nature. An ally of ours, most of the times. Especially if we live in urban areas and we need to recreate our own mini-gardens inside our apartments, houseplants are true oasis in all that cement.

However, when people expect a baby or she is already home, they have to be careful even at the plants they have around in gardens or apartments.

Cleaning Indoor Air

Some houseplants are perfect for cleaning the indoor air and soothing the baby’s lungs. The air in the house is fresher and more natural. Even so, make sure they are out of baby’s reach because babies tend to put in their mouth everything since they are exploring and learning new things.

There are a couple of houseplants that are suited for cleaning the indoor air.

Aloe Vera

It is known for removing the household toxin called formaldehyde.

Areca Palm

A general and most common purifier of indoor air, especially as it grows larger. Place it somewhere out of the baby’s reach, because the baby can reach and pull the heavy pot over herself.

Boston Fern

It not only purifies the air, but also keeps the air humid and the chances of having a sore throat are reduced.

English Ivy

Can be rather invasive, so it needs a large place, away from your baby’s exploring hands. It is useful for removing the chemical benzene from the air that is met in cigarette smoke, detergents and pesticides.

Danger Zone

If you are the type of person that wants a private jungle in the house, make sure the plants are out of your toddler’s reach, because most plants can give your baby an upset stomach and can be poisonous.

Garden trees or plants that have berries can be a choking hazard.

Chrysanthemum and Tulips can irritate the skin.

Autumn crocus, Deadly Nightshade, Yew and Monkshood are poisonous.

Snowdrops, Lilly of the Valley and Golden Chain can cause sickness.

Make sure all the plants are placed somewhere your baby cannot taste them or pull them. As babies explore they tend to eat and cling to everything.

24 Weeks Pregnant

You are now the mother of a cantaloupe-size baby. This week, your baby reached about  1, 1/3 pounds and 8 inches long. He will fatten up slowly. His baby face is fully developed.

How the baby is developing at 24 weeks

Interestingly enough, the brain of your baby is almost as mature as a newborn. This means that his memory is active. Also, the auditory system developed even more allowing your baby to recognize the songs played often, to hear the voice of his parents and loud noises.

The baby’s skin is still translucent but as your baby will fatten up, the skin will become opaque. The pigment has not yet developed so it is difficult to tell if your baby will be blonde, brunette or ginger. However, the face of your baby is almost fully formed having eyelashes, eyebrows and hair.

Furthermore, the respiratory system of your baby starts to develop branches that discharge a substance that will help him breathe once he faces the outside world.

Your lifestyle and pregnancy symptoms at 24 weeks

Your belly is now the size of a football oval and rose 2 inches above your belly button. Your skin stretches more over the abdomen and chest, causing it to become dry and itchy. You can also experience dry eyes or blurred vision, which is common in pregnant women. Still, mentioning them to your doctor is of most importance.

You will have to deal with swollen ankles and feet so make sure you lift your legs up on a pillow. The back pains will not give you a break and leg cramps may appear in case of dehydration.

Keeping yourself hydrated is even more important during pregnancy.

Scan appointments at 24 weeks

If you have managed to control your desire of finding the baby’s gender, so far, but you are starting to give up, you have the chance to get a gender scan at 24 weeks.

Moreover, you can check your baby’s health and growing rate with a growth scan.

You can also get a 3D scan in order to get an image of your baby’s development.

 

 

Winter is coming. Keep your baby warm

We have finally arrived at that time of year with bonny decorations, jolly songs and a cosy feeling. Even if it is a peaceful season, for you is the middle of chaos because you are worried about your newborn.

Here are some tips on how to keep your baby warm during winter:

Breathable fabric

Whether we talk about the bed covers or clothes, your baby can suffer from heat even during the cold season due to the temptation of folding her up in thick blankets. That is why you need to choose a soft blanket or a sack that can be zipped down.

If you choose to go outside, make sure a soft scarf protects your baby’s neck and mouth without suffocating her.

Easy to On/Off

Choose clothes like a snow suit since it is easy to take it off or put it on. Moreover, the slicker fabric protects the baby from humidity and frost.

Cover your baby’s hands with flexible mittens and put on warm socks and boots. Your baby needs to move even in cold weather, because movement decreases the chances of being cold.

Be careful not to overdress your baby because sweating in winter is as bad as being cold.

Hydrate

During winter, the body uses a lot of fuel, which can lead to dehydration. Make sure your baby drinks liquids such as water and milk.

Massage

A traditional way of enhancing the blood flow is massaging. Massage your baby’s legs and hands since extremities are exposed to cold quite often. This way your baby will have a better blood circulation and her body will be ready to fight against winter.

How to choose a baby name

Most new parents expect to have the ultimate inspiration when seeing for the first time the sparkling eyes of their baby. “Thou shalt be named: [big pause]”, but it is not that easy.

Scroll down this article and you will find the five best sources to inspire a baby name.

  1. “What say you?”

Lord of the Rings – You like the trilogy or not, Tolkien’s books offer great inspiration for baby names. He created an entire world so you can choose between an elf, a dwarf or a human. Do not forget the hobbits. There are many name generators created by fans of Tolkien that can help you with the meaning.

You can have lots of fun with those tools, but for the sake of your baby do not choose a name that is easy to mock.

  1. “The force is strong in you”

Star Wars – Another epic realm that can inspire you to come up with a cool baby name is the Jedi world. Your child, especially if it is a boy will be proud to bear the name of a Jedi master or a Sith lord. Just make sure he watches the films at one point in his life. You can find plenty of name generators on the Internet that are based on the Jedi culture.

  1. “The one who must not be named”

Harry Potter & co. – We are all Harry Potter fans, in secret. This piece of art has numerous names that can inspire a girl or a boy name. Some examples are Bartemius or Alecto, or even Fleur. Your baby will be proud to have the name of a strong wizard.

  1. “We call that one muad’dib”

Dune – Frank Herbert is another creator of worlds. Though the movie made after his book is not that recent, checking the name of the characters is a delightful experience. Your baby will have an exotic name with a philosophical touch.

  1. “Once upon a…”

Fairy tales in general are a rich source of names. From Disney’s Elsa to Grimm’s Gretel, these names have a magical ring. Your child will probably expect a fairy to be his best friend, but at least you will have a sociable offspring.

Many celebrities have used this type of sources to name their children such as Nicholas Cage and Steven Spielberg.

23 weeks pregnant

You are starting your 6th month of pregnancy and believe it or not, your baby can tango. Most senses are active by now and your baby has the skinny shape of a mini person; something bigger than a Smurf, about the size of a papaya fruit.

How the baby is developing at 23 weeks

At 23 weeks, your baby is sitting in your uterus like a king on his throne. His ears are fully developed so he can hear and react to loud noises such as a barking. If you turn up the stereo and dance, your baby will perceive that and will rock it, too. His eyes are fully formed, except that they do not have a colour yet. From this point on, he will also start to bulk up a bit. By now, he is finally 1 pound and about 11 to 14 inches. His skin is red and wrinkled.

Your lifestyle and pregnancy symptoms at 23 week

This is the time to prepare your maternity leave and finish with the stress of work and papers. However, if you still want to work you can do that, but make sure you keep yourself hydrated. Drinking water is very important during pregnancy. You can also drink milk, which hydrates you better than water.

Being 23 weeks pregnant, you start to fatten up faster, so make sure you eat nutritious food that quenches your hunger and cravings.

Your growing belly starts to put pressure on your back and you may start to experience back pains. Make sure you sit comfortably at home or at work. Another part of your body that feels the pressure is the legs. Stretch them or put them up on a pillow when you lay down in order to avoid the painful swelling. Reducing the use of heels and walking with comfortable shoes is of most importance now.

You will observe that your body starts to widen and an odd line appears on your belly, below the belly button. That is the linea nigra. The pregnancy hormones change the shades of your skin, darkening them. They are also guilty for linea nigra, which before your pregnancy was just a normal line between your belly button and pubic area. Do not worry; this line will fade slowly after your baby is born.

Scan appointments at 23 weeks

If you have not seen your baby at 22 weeks, this is the right time to make an appointment for a growth scan. This way you will be able to see the mini human developing in your womb and your doctor will check the health of your baby. With the growth scan, your baby’s tummy, head and legs will be measured to make sure he is growing up in tip-top condition.

 

New Mother Syndrome or Post-Natal Depression

You are home with your newborn. You look at that angel sleeping and you suddenly burst into tears. Do not worry – feeling emotional, in tears and panicked is normal for a new mother. Your life perspective changes from “I” to “my child”. You have new priorities and you are more sensitive than ever.

Reading this article will help you make the difference between baby blues and post-natal depression. Remember that a happy mother is a happy child.

New Mother Syndrome

This is hardly a problem or an illness. The new mother syndrome is the change in perspectives. From woman you become mother, the ultimate title. In the first weeks of maternity, you can suffer from the so-called baby blues, which are random bursts of tears, anxiety or sadness. They do not last long, though and they swap with good moods.

You need to realize that being a mother is not entirely a joyful, idyllic experience. It is also an overwhelming, tiresome experience.

What you need to do is take care of yourself and of your baby. Do not neglect yourself. Get enough rest and eat well.

Most mothers panic when their baby cries… or does not cry. Babies have their own alarm system and crying is their way of speaking.  When your baby cries and weeps, try to keep your cool and soothe his nerves, do not become yourself agitated and nervous.

Things get problematic if your sadness persists and it becomes a way of living.

Post-Natal Depression

Scientists did not discover yet why some mothers become depressed and others do not. It is the result of many factors: an unstable financial situation, no support from their life partner, the absence of family and friends, previous depressive symptoms.

Consult with your doctor to diagnose correctly a depression.  Here are the most common symptoms of post-natal depression:

  • Manic behaviour: insomnia, severe agitation
  • Prolonged sadness
  • Lack of hope and no perspective on life, future
  • Guilt
  • Irritable behaviour, unjustified anger
  • Indifferent to your baby or a wish to harm him
  • Indifferent to your life partner

It is very important to acknowledge these symptoms and not to keep them to yourself. Do not be afraid of being judged or misunderstood. In any types of depression, communicating with your closest ones and a doctor is the best method.

Post-natal depression does not mean you have failed as a mother.

Love yourself and your baby.

22 Weeks pregnant

You are in the middle of the 2nd trimester of pregnancy, between five and six months and you carry now a living spaghetti squash. That is the size of your baby. Your belly starts to shape up and announce the glorious development of your baby. With a growth scan, you can look at your miniature human.

How the baby is developing at 22 weeks

At 22 weeks, your baby is about 11 inches long and its brain starts to grow at a rapid rate. In its 5th month of existence, the organ system starts to define its functionalities. Also, the fingernails are fully grown and the shape of its lips is clearly visible. Even more, its first teeth are developing under the gums, deep wrinkles and lanugo hair cover her baby skin.

Your baby has now a sleeping schedule and your movements can wake her up. Her tongue develops tasting buds and the weekly weight has increased with around 60-70 grams. From now on, your baby perceives your voice and loud noises.

Your lifestyle and pregnancy symptoms at the 22nd week

Even though your pregnancy is becoming more and more visible, at 22 weeks you can still bend and sit comfortably. You might develop stretch marks, which appear because your belly expands to make room for the baby to grow. Not only this, but your body starts to change. Each woman changes at her own rate so do not panic. Your skin texture tends to look better, remember the popular saying: “pregnancy makes a woman more beautiful”. Well, it is true. During pregnancy, your body loses less hair than normal and you might find some uninvited hair on your jaw, chin or above the upper lip. Do not worry, waxing and shaving are perfectly safe.

Now you have to take care of yourself better than ever because pregnant women are sensitive to anaemia and you have to make sure you drink a proper amount of water.

Scan appointments at 22 weeks

Taking a growth scan will help you and your doctor to keep an eye on the development of your baby. You will have all measurements recorded and checked. In addition, getting some glossy images of your baby at 22 weeks will make you feel better and more relaxed seeing the small, cute figure.

The secret baby language

Before language, there was sound. Before speech, there was the “gu-gu-ta-da” prehistoric discourse. Your baby will probably use languages from the past to communicate with you. Researchers speak about babies’ language development and try to decode the messages voiced by these little bundles of joy.

Below, we present you the most common baby language and its decoding:

Up to 3 months:

A-Vowel

Your baby lets out these smooth, cooing sounds when she is pleased, no more than a long vowel. She will most likely smile so you can easily tell she is in a good mood.

Here is a charter that explains the vowels meaning (according to Priscilla Dunstan and her Dunstan Baby Language)

Owh = I’m sleepy/I’m tired

Heh = Change me/I’m uncomfortable

Eh = Burp me

Neh = I’m hungry

Eairh = I have gas

Waaah

Probably the most used sound ever. Even adults use it when things go wrong in our life and just need a break. Well, babies need a break as well. If your baby is hungry, tired, too warm or her senses just say “no-no”, she will cry. Talk to the baby in a soothing voice, the calmer your voice is, the faster she will calm down. Also, check her diapers and temperature for the crying clue. In time, as a mother you will witness types of crying at your baby and will be able to distinguish between the “hungry cry” and the “pain cry”.

Up to 6 months

Your baby has developed his language skills a bit. Now, he can coo in various ways and even have a tone. That’s right, your baby will go up and down the musical stave. Moreover, by this time your baby will respond with sounds to your facial expressions and voice.

Up to 12 months

Who is the master of sounds?  Your baby. He will babble and mumble on different tones. His voice will combine now different vowels and consonants.

The best surprise at this stage? Well, now your baby will start quarrelling and talking back at you. He will actually start communicating with you.