11 things about pregnancy Dads should know

  1. There will be a lot of shifts in her body, especially the hormones so don`t worry about the moves and shifts of mood.
  2.  Don`t miss any appointments and this includes anything from Doctor Appointments to Lamaze. You might think it is stupid but just get over it and go!
  3. Remember she is eating for two! Have food available at all times and be prepared to provide the thing she is craving as fast as possible.
  4. Read and educate yourself on birth and pregnancy, there is a lot of information out there that will make things so much more clear.
  5. Don`t forget to romance your wife, especially now. Flowers, compliments, love notes, whatever works for her. There will be a lot of strange new feeling for her so she needs your attention.
  6. She might experience an increased sex drive their 2nd trimester. Don`t worry about hurting the baby (unless the Doctor says otherwise) and just enjoy yourselves.
  7. You will have to start doing a lot more than before around the house since pregnancy will exhaust her.
  8. By the beginning of the second Trimester you should let you employer know what`s happening to ease things to come. Also you should check your options for a Paternity Leave.
  9. Ask her how she`s doing and listen to the answers she gives you, communication is key in any relationship but it is even more important now.
  10. Have a hospital bag prepared even for yourself for when the time comes.
  11. Keep the car gas tank full at all times and be sure to know the shortest route to the hospital. You might want to also buy new tires.

Pregnant women should be given a budget of around £3,000 to be spent on services including a midwife of their choosing, a major review has concluded

Under plans proposed by the National Maternity Review, women would be told about local NHS providers, but given flexibility to make their own choices about their care.

Mums-to-be could opt for a hospital near work for routine scans, but a hospital closer to home for their baby’s birth, or choose a provider offering the same midwife throughout pregnancy, birth and postnatal care, the authors said.

The scheme would give women more choice over how and where they give birth – an important decision at a time when half of maternity services in England are classed as “inadequate” or “require improvement”.

The proposals have been compared to personal health budgets, where people with disabilities or long-term conditions have a say over how NHS cash is spent on their care.

That system has come under fire amid reports of abuse, with some patients using their budgets to buy holidays and video games.

Despite rapid improvement over the last 10 years, the review highlights safety concerns, including some hospitals failing to own up when something has gone wrong.

The review’s authors call for a standardised investigation process and “rapid redress” for families whose babies suffer harm.

The review also calls for better continuity of care and more resources for postnatal care.

Chair Baroness Julia Cumberlege said: “Women have told us they want to be given genuine choices and have the same person looking after them throughout their care.

“We must ensure that all care is as safe as the best and we need to break down boundaries and work together to reduce the variation in the quality of services and provide a good experience for all women.”

Simon Stevens, chief executive of NHS England, said: “The independent review… rightly argues that the NHS could and should raise its game on personalised support for parents and their babies, better team working, better use of technology, and more joined-up maternity and mental health services.”

Are baby pacifiers useful?

Do you remember that old picture with the baby you preoccupied with a dummy? In the past, most mothers resort to baby pacifiers in order to sooth the baby or just keep her busy.

However, with the developing of the so-called baby science, we find out that the traditional methods might not be safe for the development of the baby.

Such is the case with the baby pacifiers. Below, you can read the pros and cons of using a pacifier.

A pacifier satisfies the natural need of your baby to suck. Since the gums of your baby are aching, she feels the need to test the gum against some object so a pacifier can calm down the painful gums and reduce the baby’s frustration. However, the baby might be confused about the breastfeeding and lose interest in the breastfeeding since it requires more effort.

While your baby can fall asleep faster while using a pacifier, he can become dependent on the dummy. Therefore, if the dummy falls off his mouth during the night, he will make a terrible fuss until you will wake up and give him the dummy back… each and every time.

Sucking on the dummy helps your baby receive the right amount of oxygen and reduces the risk of SIDS. Nevertheless, if the baby becomes dependent on the pacifier, it might be difficult to correct the behaviour and the overuse of the pacifier can cause misaligned teeth.

Another problem is that the pacifier can become a magic tool that helps you to avoid the fuss and tantrum pulled by your baby. It is a problem because it reduces the interaction between you as a mother or parent and your baby. In case your baby has a real problem like dirty diaper, missing his mother or being hungry and you use the dummy, you will only worsen the problem.

If your baby accepts the pacifier, you can use it at times; just make sure not to let your baby become attached to it.

Decoding baby cries

Babies cry. It is a fact and it will not change no matter how many centuries pass. Some people say that crying is a natural phenomenon. Since babies are unique and have different personalities, some can cry more than others cry or sleep less than others sleep. In addition, each baby responds differently to stimuli.

A myth that is far from being busted is that mothers can tell the difference between types of their babies ‘cry. Before trusting any myth or rumour, pay attention to your child and adapt to his personality.

Look at the 5 most common baby cries

1. Pain Alarm

This type of cry is usually piercing, grating and powerful. Also, the mimics and gestures of your baby appear panicked and alerted. The babies that suffer from gas pain bring their knees up to chest or grunt. Your baby might calm down if he sucks on his finger or the dummy.

2. Sleep Alarm

Sounds like a breathy and helpless sob and it usually announces that the baby is tired and needs sleep. Also, the baby’s eyes are reddish and he keeps rubbing them. Some babies though tired, are agitated and when taken in arms they are restless. Usually they just want to be allowed to sleep. Rocking the baby gently and humming a soft tune can help your baby fall asleep more easily.

3. Boring/Over-stimulating Alarm

It does not sound so powerful and agitated like the other types and it is more like a chanting. The way you can tell it is a bored cry is the fact that the baby looks away from the game or you, so try to find other stimuli. In case the baby is over-stimulated, try to focus his attention on one sound or one image and play some soothing music.

4. Annoyed Alarm

Sounds like a whiny and forced repetition. The baby is telling you he is not comfortable with something. He also pulls angry faces and flaps his hands. He can react in this way based on simple stimuli such as the hat falls over his eyes or the shoe feels like slipping off.

5. Burp Alarm

If the baby makes an “eh” sound repeatedly, after a meal, it means it is time to help him burp. His chest and stomach muscles tightened and he needs to get those gases out.

Before stressing yourself about the cry of your baby try to understand him and check if his basic needs have been covered- clean diaper, comfortable position, hunger.

The Perfect Nanny

Mary Poppins, Robin Williams cross-dressing, Fran – famous examples of excellent nannies that we all picture when it comes to choosing the right nanny for our children. However, beyond fiction, finding the right person to take care of your children is a more delicate issue.

There are 6 steps you have to take in order to make sure you have found the perfect nanny.

1. Prioritize

Discuss with your partner or decide yourself what expectancies you have regarding the nanny. Think of what type of person you want her to be and what training or skills she should have. Also, consider what she can teach your children, for example a new language. Think of the gender of the nanny, if it matters for the harmony of the family. Moreover, set a right wage for the requirements you have for the nanny.

2. Spread the word

As soon as you decide on the profile of the nanny, let people know that you are looking for one. Talk with friends and family, maybe they know someone that is looking for this kind of job. It is always better to have a personal reference for the nanny.

Go to local baby-sitting centres or agencies and let them know the profile of the nanny so they can search one for you.

Also, go on the web and let the virtual world know you are in search of a nanny.

3. Interview

Let us say you found a couple of applicants. It is time to invite them to an interview. Best place is your home when the children are around. This way you can observe the nanny’s attitude while interacting with children and you on your territory.

Include in the interview questions about the experience of the nanny with children, his or her method of baby-sitting, behaviour towards ill children and availability. Also, ask the applicants about first aid training or any medical training that can come in hand.

Since the nanny job is full of responsibilities and implies communicating with children, make sure you choose a person that is not half-hearted towards the idea.

4. Ask for references

Narrow down the nanny list and look for references for the chosen names. Talk with former employers about the strengths and weaknesses of the baby-sitter.

5. Trial-run

Ask the applicants that survived so far to come for a couple of days in a trial run. Be there for the trials and observe the interaction the nanny has with your child and the general behaviour. You have to be exigent because your child will be exposed to a stranger. Use this trial for as much time as you need to make sure you have found the right person.

6. Intuition

Once you have witnessed the trials, what do your guts say? If you feel unsure about someone or that person gives you a peculiar feeling, you are not obliged to hire the nanny. Trust in your intuition and your child’s opinion to make the best choice for the perfect nanny.

How to handle the baby tantrum

One thing that can leave a bitter taste about parenthood is the baby tantrum show. From that cute child, your baby can turn in seconds in the most awful emergency alarm. It is stressful and worrisome for most parents, but the baby is making noises to tell you something.

The trick to all those cries and bad moods is to be as witty as a fox…Tactfully. Your baby is scared of the new power he discovers- yell and cry until he brings desperation, but he can scratch himself by flapping agitated his arms or pull heavy objects over him. Make sure he cannot injure himself during the tantrum. Many babies do not like to be embraced or hugged during their tantrums because they understand it as physical restriction.

Below, you have 4 effective tips on how to manage your baby’s tantrums

 1. Calm down

This encouragement is for you, not for your baby. Do not respond to cries and screams with screams. You have to be the calm oasis your baby can return to so try to be as calm as possible.

2.  No argument

Trying to be logical and explain to your child the situation is useless. The baby is having a crisis beyond reason; he will not understand anything of what you are saying. However, you can talk on a calm tone with your toddler and try to see what bothers him.

3. No reward

This goes both ways- Whether it is a reward or a punishment, you must not change the current situation for the baby. For example, if your child wants chocolate but he is not allowed to eat it and he starts to cry, do not give him the chocolate in order to make him stop. Alternatively, if you were planning to feed your child before the tantrum, feed him regardless of the crisis, after he calms down.

4. No shift in behaviour

One of the most horrid experiences when it comes to babies or toddlers tantrums is the public show. You are in the centre of the mall and your baby starts to make a tantrum. It is a common situation and people around will understand. We were all babies once. If the baby notices that his tantrums manipulate you, the crisis will become his spoiled weapon. Try to keep your calm and let the baby see that his tantrum does not affect you.

As a parent, you have to know your child. Learn to make the difference between a tantrum and a real pain or discomfort. Not all baby’s cries are used to manipulate you to give him a candy or a new toy.

Remember that the baby responds to your energy so if you are calm, the baby will calm down easier. Do not let him feel your frustration and anxiety.

10 interesting facts about babies

Science develops fast, but there are still many curiosities that we do not know about babies. A peculiar matter is the tight bond that forms between mother and child, a bond that science fails to explain. Miracles are all around babies.

Let’s look at 10 of the most interesting facts about babies.

1. A few days of birth and your baby can tell the difference between various fibres.

2. In general, newborns turn their heads more to the right than to the left.

3. The newborn is urinating once at 20 minutes, then once in 6 hours.

4. Once at 3 seconds a baby is born in the world.

5. Some of the premature born babies are Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, Napoleon Bonaparte and Jean-Jacques Rousseau. Great minds seem to be hasty.

6. The baby has kneecaps that are not visible on X-rays during pregnancy.

7. The baby’s head is about 25% of the general weight.

8. Baby boys are generally heavier than baby girls.

9. Babies have around 10,000 taste buds, much more than adults, but they disappear in time.

10. Usually, newborns tend to sleep about 16 hours per day though not continuously.

Enjoy your experience as a new parent. It doesn’t hurt to give in to your inner child from time to time, especially since your baby needs a play comrade. Rejoice because you were a tiny miracle too.

Houseplants that are safe for the baby

Nature. An ally of ours, most of the times. Especially if we live in urban areas and we need to recreate our own mini-gardens inside our apartments, houseplants are true oasis in all that cement.

However, when people expect a baby or she is already home, they have to be careful even at the plants they have around in gardens or apartments.

Cleaning Indoor Air

Some houseplants are perfect for cleaning the indoor air and soothing the baby’s lungs. The air in the house is fresher and more natural. Even so, make sure they are out of baby’s reach because babies tend to put in their mouth everything since they are exploring and learning new things.

There are a couple of houseplants that are suited for cleaning the indoor air.

Aloe Vera

It is known for removing the household toxin called formaldehyde.

Areca Palm

A general and most common purifier of indoor air, especially as it grows larger. Place it somewhere out of the baby’s reach, because the baby can reach and pull the heavy pot over herself.

Boston Fern

It not only purifies the air, but also keeps the air humid and the chances of having a sore throat are reduced.

English Ivy

Can be rather invasive, so it needs a large place, away from your baby’s exploring hands. It is useful for removing the chemical benzene from the air that is met in cigarette smoke, detergents and pesticides.

Danger Zone

If you are the type of person that wants a private jungle in the house, make sure the plants are out of your toddler’s reach, because most plants can give your baby an upset stomach and can be poisonous.

Garden trees or plants that have berries can be a choking hazard.

Chrysanthemum and Tulips can irritate the skin.

Autumn crocus, Deadly Nightshade, Yew and Monkshood are poisonous.

Snowdrops, Lilly of the Valley and Golden Chain can cause sickness.

Make sure all the plants are placed somewhere your baby cannot taste them or pull them. As babies explore they tend to eat and cling to everything.

Winter is coming. Keep your baby warm

We have finally arrived at that time of year with bonny decorations, jolly songs and a cosy feeling. Even if it is a peaceful season, for you is the middle of chaos because you are worried about your newborn.

Here are some tips on how to keep your baby warm during winter:

Breathable fabric

Whether we talk about the bed covers or clothes, your baby can suffer from heat even during the cold season due to the temptation of folding her up in thick blankets. That is why you need to choose a soft blanket or a sack that can be zipped down.

If you choose to go outside, make sure a soft scarf protects your baby’s neck and mouth without suffocating her.

Easy to On/Off

Choose clothes like a snow suit since it is easy to take it off or put it on. Moreover, the slicker fabric protects the baby from humidity and frost.

Cover your baby’s hands with flexible mittens and put on warm socks and boots. Your baby needs to move even in cold weather, because movement decreases the chances of being cold.

Be careful not to overdress your baby because sweating in winter is as bad as being cold.

Hydrate

During winter, the body uses a lot of fuel, which can lead to dehydration. Make sure your baby drinks liquids such as water and milk.

Massage

A traditional way of enhancing the blood flow is massaging. Massage your baby’s legs and hands since extremities are exposed to cold quite often. This way your baby will have a better blood circulation and her body will be ready to fight against winter.

How to choose a baby name

Most new parents expect to have the ultimate inspiration when seeing for the first time the sparkling eyes of their baby. “Thou shalt be named: [big pause]”, but it is not that easy.

Scroll down this article and you will find the five best sources to inspire a baby name.

  1. “What say you?”

Lord of the Rings – You like the trilogy or not, Tolkien’s books offer great inspiration for baby names. He created an entire world so you can choose between an elf, a dwarf or a human. Do not forget the hobbits. There are many name generators created by fans of Tolkien that can help you with the meaning.

You can have lots of fun with those tools, but for the sake of your baby do not choose a name that is easy to mock.

  1. “The force is strong in you”

Star Wars – Another epic realm that can inspire you to come up with a cool baby name is the Jedi world. Your child, especially if it is a boy will be proud to bear the name of a Jedi master or a Sith lord. Just make sure he watches the films at one point in his life. You can find plenty of name generators on the Internet that are based on the Jedi culture.

  1. “The one who must not be named”

Harry Potter & co. – We are all Harry Potter fans, in secret. This piece of art has numerous names that can inspire a girl or a boy name. Some examples are Bartemius or Alecto, or even Fleur. Your baby will be proud to have the name of a strong wizard.

  1. “We call that one muad’dib”

Dune – Frank Herbert is another creator of worlds. Though the movie made after his book is not that recent, checking the name of the characters is a delightful experience. Your baby will have an exotic name with a philosophical touch.

  1. “Once upon a…”

Fairy tales in general are a rich source of names. From Disney’s Elsa to Grimm’s Gretel, these names have a magical ring. Your child will probably expect a fairy to be his best friend, but at least you will have a sociable offspring.

Many celebrities have used this type of sources to name their children such as Nicholas Cage and Steven Spielberg.